6 Things People with Depression Wish You Knew | Mental Health

Disclaimer: This post stems mostly from personal experience, and from that of my friends' - I'm in no way suggesting that all depression incites the same reactions, or that everyone who's depressed behaves the same way.
These are just some things that happen to a lot of depressed people, and isn't always easy to explain.
1. WE GET LONELY. A LOT.
In a room full of crowded people. Late at night. During the working day. Sometimes, it just hits us, for no reason at all...but that doesn't mean we don't appreciate you checking up on us, spending time with us, and just generally being around. 

2. WE BLAME OURSELVES. FOR EVERYTHING.
If someone doesn't respond to our message in the group chat? We said something stupid. If we don't get included in plans with friends? No one wants us around. That time our drink got spiked and we threw up in the back of a cab? How could we possibly be so stupid?
No, it doesn't make sense, and yes, basic logic would deduce a million reasons why we weren't to blame, but we'll still find a way. We're not looking for attention, we're genuinely worried we've done something wrong. 

3. WE'LL PROBABLY BE A PAIN TO KEEP IN TOUCH WITH.
Sometimes, we just need to not talk to anyone, to have a little time alone. No, it's not always healthy to isolate ourselves, but sometimes it's the only way to cope. The best invitation in the world, be it our best friend's birthday, an interview, or the wedding of the century, probably won't pull us out of our cocoon. It's nothing personal, and it doesn't mean we don't care about you. Honestly.

4. WE NEED REASSURANCE. A LOT.
'Are you sure it's okay?', 'how about this bit?', 'really?': we're not fishing for compliments, but if we did well, we really need to know. And we probably need to check, at least 5 times. Whether you're a colleague, a friend, our SO, whether you have to explain a thousand times that we haven't screwed up, why you love us, or why you keep us around...just be patient. 

5. SOMETIMES, WE SNAP. IT'S NOT PRETTY.
Depression can do weird things to our perception. We'll bottle things that bother us up for months - things that we maybe know are irrational - and eventually, it gets too much, and we explode. That comment you made 6 weeks ago, that thing you didn't invite us to, last month? It all bubbles to the surface, and our hurt feelings all come out, at once. It's not because we've been building a case against you, or harbouring resentment, we just try to tell ourselves it's all in our head, sometimes, and it doesn't always work. We know it's wrong, but it's just how we cope.

6. WE CAN'T 'SNAP OUT OF IT'.
We wish we could. We know it hurts you, too. We know we don't always handle things well, and that we don't have the healthiest of coping mechanisms. If we could just 'get over it', we would. 
Do you have depression, or know someone who does? What do you wish you could tell people about it?
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Charlotte Tilbury Colour-Coded Eyeshadows | Review

I've been raving about how much of a Charlotte Tilbury convert I am on my Twitter for a couple of months, now, and in last night's #bbloggers chat, I couldn't stop raving about the colour-coded eyeshadow quads...which is around about the time I realised a review was long overdue.
 THE VINTAGE VAMP
This was the first Charlotte Tilbury product I ever bought, and it really kick-started my obsession; maybe I'm just a giant blogger stereotype, but anything rose gold has me ready to declare my undying love, and this was no exception; it's a nice twist on a classic smoky eye, without being so pink that it makes you look like you just need a good night's sleep. 
THE GLAMOUR MUSE
From my first palette to my newest; this gorgeous purple-hued palette is the latest purchase I've made, and it's probably one of the best I've made, too. I was a little intimidated by the vivid tones in this selection when I first saw it - I like quite subtle shades, on my eyes (one too many run-ins with the old Barry M 'Dazzle Dusts' when I was younger - not cute!) - but having swatched it in-store, it's a lot more subtle than it looks, and super wearable. Think smoky eye, with a purple overlay.
THE GOLDEN GODDESS
Last, but by no means least, my absolute favourite eyeshadow quad, possibly ever. Doesn't sound like much of a claim, until you see how many I actually own...but trust me, there are a lot of contenders. 'The Golden Goddess' lives up to its name, perfectly. It's not that bright, brassy gold you used to pair with your electric blue mascara during secondary school summers (just me? Oh, that's awkward), it's deep gold, verging-on-brown, but with the gorgeous shimmer that'll take you from day to night, when you need it to. I can't recommend this one, enough.

OVERALL
I can't recommend the Charlotte Tilbury colour-coded eyeshadow quads enough. They're obscenely long-lasting (I fell asleep with my eye make up still on after the work Christmas party, and I was still channeling 'vintage vamp' at 7am the next day...whoops), and have really buildable shades. Plus, the back of the palette reminds you exactly what each shade is for (prime/enhance/smoke/pop), which is great if you're going from work to drinks or dancing. Yes, they're pricey. Very pricey, when you're living that #brokelife, like I am, but honestly, I'd rather have one or two of these than all of my Naked palettes, combined.
Charlotte Tilbury Colour-Coded Eyeshadow Quads retail for £38, and can be purchased here.
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